Grieving the Loss of a Child or Baby

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Julia Samuel MBE
4 min videoWritten by a grief psychotherapist
When a pregnancy ends, people often expect your grief to match the number of weeks. But that's not how it works. You weren't grieving a number of cells. You were grieving the future you'd already started to imagine: the pram, the car seat, the family you were becoming.

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3 min 55 sec · Filmed Grief Works conversation
In this video, Julia explains why miscarriage and stillbirth grief is so painful, why it's so isolating, and why creating memories of the baby you lost, however brief their life, can be one of the most healing things you do.

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Julia Samuel MBE

Psychotherapist and co-creator of Grief Works

One of the world's most respected grief psychotherapists, with over 35 years' experience. Former Vice President of the BACP, MBE for services to the bereaved, Founder Patron of Child Bereavement UK, and bestselling author of Grief Works and This Too Shall Pass.

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