Is There a Right Way to Grieve?

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Julia Samuel MBE
3 min videoWritten by a grief psychotherapist
Grief is deeply personal, but there is a process. Not a tidy one, not a straight line, but a natural movement between feeling the pain and giving yourself a break from it. Both are necessary. Both help you heal.

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2 min 35 sec · Filmed Grief Works conversation

In this video, Julia explains how grief actually works: why pain is the agent of change, why blocking it does more harm than good, and how you slowly build a new normal you never asked for.

The Grief Works Programme is built around this process. Session 2: Pain is the Agent of Change helps you understand why leaning into the pain, not away from it, is what allows you to heal. And Session 21: New Normal guides you toward building a life around your loss, not in spite of it, but with it as part of you.

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Written by

Julia Samuel MBE

Psychotherapist and co-creator of Grief Works

One of the world's most respected grief psychotherapists, with over 35 years' experience. Former Vice President of the BACP, MBE for services to the bereaved, Founder Patron of Child Bereavement UK, and bestselling author of Grief Works and This Too Shall Pass.

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